In previous lesson, we discussed about marriage issues. From my neighborhood and family tree, I did observe a lot since I was in primary school. Good couples and bad-ending ones are around us all the time. Not only talking about married couples but also not yet married ones. Some people might say it is very common that rich man will have more than one wife. However, the truth is ? Obviously, it is not just about wealth.
Ethical or being unethical? That is not my concern because human beings always have the ability to give excuses. Arguing? For what?
From my opinion, prevention is always better than cure no matter in what areas. Let me share this with all the girls: When one day we choose to marry with someone, we can say that he is a good guy thus we choose him from the whole world. However, there is a possibility that the "good" guy will change. Thus, why not prepare the umbrella before it rains. It might not be raining but at least you are prepared and you will have the ability to face it and this is very important than what we can imagine.
Let's be INDEPENDENT !
To be independent, first, do not easily get influenced by others in thinking and acting. Second, do not rely on others' aid or support. Following are some tips for everyone especially those who already in a relationship to be more independent which acts as a reminder for myself too:
1. Keep expanding social circle: Having a relationship or get married is just one part of our lives, we should always maintain the balance between families, friends, career and personal dream and interests. And keep knowing new friends is very important because the most popular disease in next 10 years will be diseases on mindset but not on bodies. The best way to get rid of mentality problems is to talk to a stranger every day. When we keep knowing new people, we will be happier and more open-minded as communication and socializing is actually one of the human basic needs.
2. Do new things: Always challenge ourselves to do something we never done before. Challenges are something which help us to move forward. When we manage to overcome the challenges, self satisfaction and happiness will appear.
3. Lifelong learning: Knowledge is power. Keep ourselves updated and keep learning no matter how old we are. Continuous learning is a part of our lives. It is never too late to learn something you want. My mother is always a good example. When she was young, she has no chance to study and she always hope to learn English. And now she is more than 45 years young, still she is so hardworking and willing to spend time on learning english although she does not have good memory compare to those days.
4. Educate yourself on money: Money might not be the most important thing in our lives but it is very very very important. When your palm faces upside(asking for money), it might be a good feeling for someone but not as good as the feeling when palm facing down(giving to someone). Always prepare yourself in this real world. There are still quite some women who lost their confidence, lost their abilities after not working for so many years and when one day something happen on their partners, they are not prepared to overcome it.
As a conclusion, we have responsibility to care of ourselves and we should be independent. When others willing to take care of us, including parents, siblings, life partners, teachers and friends, we should be very very grateful. And I still remember a quote," Teach him on how to fish instead of feeding him." This quote shows the importance of being independent.
