Be HAPPY! Why Not?

Happiness is something important to everyone of us. However, when we grow older, the meaning of happiness start changing. For a child, an i Pad in hand will bring them happiness. For an adult, sometimes he or she might not how to know whether he or she is happy. When a child laugh, definitely he is happy at that moment. However, an adult might have to smile most of the times even they are not really happy. So, what is happiness? Can it be determined by facial movement?

Happiness is always something chased by most people in this world. For me, happiness can be divided into two types, which are short term and long term happiness. I might feel relax or maybe happy when I skip my class, watch movies, spend money without considering much or waste time at mamak stall by blowing water. However, all these are just short term happiness which they cannot bring any advantage or good effect for my future. So, really, sometimes we should set a limit and maintain the balance between "what we like to do "and "what we should do".

For long term happiness, it is something that will last longer and even until future time. Normally, the things that we should do falls under this category. For example, if a girl choose a handsome but lazy stupid guy, she might enjoy happiness in short term which cannot last and they might fight with each other especially when there are financial problems. In another hand, she might enjoy long term happiness when she choose a good manner good attitude hardworking guy.

Besides, happiness is also related to total quality life. I attended a meaningful workshop last month which is "The Keys to Total Quality Life" seminar. The speaker is a doctor who owns few clinics in Kuala Lumpur and retired with financial freedom. He is currently an Amway Triple Diamond in Malaysia. He shares that Total Quality Life is “comfortable” and “meaningful” life but not equal to “luxury” life. Human basic needs are food, clothing, shelter and car. When we focus on quality, we want good quality food which is organic and balanced diet, better clothing, comfortable house and safer car. Basically, it all means money. Money is important but not the most important. And the final part he shares as a conclusion give a clear picture on what is Total Quality Life which he gains because of Amway:

1.       No worries about money for the rest of life

2.       Health and Beauty(Nutrilite and Artistry)

3.       Good Relationship, handling people and situations

4.       Social Health(Active social life, real friends)

5.       Mental and Emotional Health

6.       Helping Others which is the most satisfying and meaningful all the time

7.       Enriching People by adding values and uplifting people

8.       Free Quality Travel Every Year, See The wonders of The World

“You gain Total Quality Life, a life that is comfortable, colorful and meaningful. We are not in this world to compete with one another. We are in this world to COMPLETE with one another!” He also said that, “The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. If you want to be successful, you must work. If you can succeed without work, it is a scam.” Attending these kinds of seminars it always makes me motivated and be more and more positive.

And to be a happy person, we must learn how to be positive. A negative person is always complaining, seeing the bad side of the world, demotivating he himself and others. If we are surrounded by these negative people, our emotions are influenced to be negative most of the time. Thus, before changing the world, let’s change from us ourselves! And maybe we cannot choose the people around us but we can change the people that we choose to be around. Keep ourselves motivated, happy and positive and influence the people around us to be better.  There are so many ways to keep ourselves positive:

1.       Attending motivational seminars

2.       Talk to a positive person when you face problems. Don’t talk to a negative one when you are unhappy, he will definitely make your day worse!

3.       Mix with positive friends

4.       Read some Motivational Books, Ex: The Magic, No Complains world

5.       Listen to motivational CDs

6.       Be grateful and thankful all the times

7.       SMILE always! It is free and sometimes you don’t really need a reason to smile. It is so simple and common thing that every positive person doing. At least, at the moment you smile, the people around you feel warmer and happier. “Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love”-Mother Teresa

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9.       Exercise regularly.

10.   Eat wisely because you are what you eat! A healthier person is always more positive. And when a person feel sick or feel stress, his emotion will be definitely affected.

11.   Choose the right food supplement. It can help us to be happier; ex at every stage in a woman's life, her body's needs change - sometimes from minute to minute. NUTRILITE Black Cohosh and Soy is specially formulated to help menopausal women feel their best. Besides, B Complex are very famous to help reducing stress which consists of B1 (improves mood and is vital to nerve function); B3 (regulates sleep), B6 (for optimum production of serotonin)  and  B12 (helps produce "feel good" brain chemicals).

12.   Get enough sleep

13.   Remove the causes of stress, for example, change jobs, and implement better time management and personal organization.

14.   Choose a positive environment to continue learning and improving yourself, for example, involving in religious activities and Amway Learning Centre activities or good camps.

All these thirteen steps are what I am doing to keep myself happy and positive. And I notice that the people who really take care of their health are actually those who are happier and more positive people, especially my friends in Diploma class(Diploma in Preventive Health and nutrition) . My classmates are from different age groups which are from 18 to 50. And these are the people who are really concern on health and willing to do something for their health and that’s why they stay healthier than their friends.  During lunch time, we share with each other on the ways to eat healthier and some housewives students bring their delicious nutritional home cook and share with all of us. What we talk about is about health and nutrition and how we can help others achieving better health and we never talk about bad things of others and negative things on news or country. That is a really positive healthy environment. It is very important to keep learning and changing and improving to be better. The stages of our lives are filled with many first times. I always tell my friends that health and nutrition is a lesson that every one must learn in their lives. I love what my teacher said, “The best doctor for my body is ME myself, the best clinic in the world is my kitchen, the best medicine is my food!” It is so true that we cannot just depending on doctors or parents to take care of our health, we ourselves have to take responsibilities for it.

As a conclusion, happiness is something that we have to learn continuously. As we will face different situations in different stages of our lives, the way we think differ from time to time.  Lastly, I would like to share with you the famous quotes by Dalai Lama, “ The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” And  “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”